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Dream big and always embrace the grind, it is the place where you reveal who you really are...
Above all else, remember; YOU are never out of the fight so NEVER GIVE UP! Sonny Kalar MSc
The Never give up guy |
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As your coach, I have years of real motivation experience from my 30 years as a Police officer dealing with all manner of incidents, from over 25 years as a Chief instructor in Kung Fu, from finding the heart to win multiple Squash tournaments despite many setbacks, losing my loved ones at a young age, being totally blind and even fighting back from my DEATHBED when I was struck down with severe illnesses and CRP levels at a shocking and life-ending 587.
All these experiences were destined to break my spirit and willpower but I developed systems, mantras and an indomitable mind where I overcame it all. I simply refused to give up and knew subliminally that you only fail when you stop trying and thus through these lived experiences and as your NEVER GIVE UP, MOTIVATION and SUCCESS COACH,
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A snapshot of my journey and why they call me the Never give up guy...
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MOVED TO A HOSPITAL SIDE-ROOM TO DIE WITH SEPSIS and 587 CRP LEVELS
I survived double pneumonia, severe blood poisoning (Sepsis) that was ravishing my entire body, double lung pleurisy (with drains pumping blood and pus out of my lungs), MRSA, multiple-organ failure, type 2 respiratory failure and CRP levels at 587 (with anything over 200 considered fatal). On top of this, I had lost 3 stone, not eaten for weeks and was on full oxygen and this was all at the same time in 1 brutal and painful sitting over 5 tumultuous weeks in hospital where I was even put in a hospital side room to die. Doctors told me it was a miracle I survived and no-one with illnesses I had along with CRP levels that high gets out alive and they said it was years of competing in my high level sports (squash, kung fu) that had saved my life as my heart refused to give out along with my absolute refusal to throw the towel in. I had made my mind a fortress at the time, reciting mantras to myself and making a pact with God as I knew there was no back-up and it was just down to me to find a way off of my deathbed where I was going to shuffle off this mortal coil and die. I am glad my indomitable fighting spirit never let me down and I had the willpower to dig deep mentally where I fought back with every vestige of strength and mental fortitude I could muster and it worked. The doctors remained incredulous (even to this day) with my survival and later gave me a printout of my 587 CRP scores for posterity and a badge of purpose as I moved forward with my life and I always wear a chain embossed with the names of my family, Never give up and 587 as a reminder forever more... You are never out of the fight - So NEVER GIVE UP! |
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DOING THE HARD YARDS AS A POLICE OFFICER FOR 30 YEARS
I joined as a MET Police officer/supervisor at 19yrs old and was told that due to shift work, stresses of the job, harsh things I would see and being BAME that I wouldn’t make it to the end but despite all of the negativity and with great determination, I proved everyone wrong and retired at 49 years old with a professional, unblemished and exemplary service record with not a single complaint (internal or external) in 30 long years but with many unimaginable scars. During 3 decades of policing and ALL as a front-line officer on busy blue-light response teams, specialist squads, Custody officer, Safer Neighbourhoods, CID, as A/Inspector and managing many projects, I was involved in the most horrendous of incidents where I showed fortitude in the face of adversity and where I was forced to delve deep into the darkest and most painful recesses of my mind to find the resolve and strength to forge on despite battling severe Mental health. I saw things at a young age that no-one should see but I developed character, resilience and realised early on that I was THAT guy who really wanted to help people and make a real difference to those who needed my support. I served proudly and with full commitment and professionalism and I will never forget this period of my life... NEVER GIVE UP when others say you can’t do something - do it and do it bloody well BLIND FOR MONTHS
I went totally BLIND for MONTHS (twice) after a serious eye infection and many experienced eye-hospital Drs said over and over that I would never see again and my eyes were damaged. However, I refused to accept this and I fought back and dug in each and every day believing and manifesting seeing again despite the prognosis and the stark seriousness and reality of what I was facing. Drs later called me a miracle when my eyesight returned but I called it a deeply held BELIEF, never giving up hope and fundamentally refusing to know when you are beaten, an inherent trait that is the very essence of who I am and what I stand for within every facet of my life no matter the odds. NEVER GIVE UP on the power of faith and belief RESILIENCE AS A KUNG FU CHIEF INSTRUCTOR IN TOUGH SPOTS
I have been a martial arts instructor for over 25 years and I have worked extremely hard and earned several black belts in different disciplines including a 2nd Degree in Kung Fu. Whilst teaching successfully for years, I decided that I wanted to broaden my horizons and merge Kung Fu and stick-fighting into one system and at the time everyone said it would be impossible to break away from my organisation and run my own clubs. However, I never listened to the naysayers and did exactly this and ran successful clubs across the UK for many years with over 250 students at one time, assistant instructors under me and produced multiple black belt students. NEVER GIVE UP when others doubt your abilities |
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COACHING MY KIDS TO SQUASH SUCCESS DESPITE NO QUALIFICATIONS
I was constantly told that my kids needed a proper qualified Squash coach if they were to win trophies and become good players but I never listened and I simply coached them with the exact same methods/drills that I used to coach myself in my erstwhile days and with the same tactics I deployed to win all of my tournaments across the UK. This squash journey all started when I had made a pact with myself after I survived from nearly dying on my hospital deathbed (587 situation above) and months after surviving I went on to build a small wooden, make-shift Squash court in my garden when they were younger for them to enjoy themselves after school. I then used my own coaching methods, tactics, experience and with my support they achieved; - UK No 1 (several times) - County champions - National Racketball champions - Professional players - Winning over 155 trophies between them - Winners of rising player of the season - 1st Sikh boy to play for England & win 2 Gold medals NEVER GIVE UP on your beliefs as others don’t share your vision |
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DEALING WITH PERSONAL TRAGEDY
Sadly losing Mum to cancer at 53 years old (my best friend and the most beautiful person inside and out) and being departed from the majority of my birth family in my 20’s with just my beautiful Sister and I left was soul-destroying and destined to break me but I stood firm and never let this heartbreak define me and instead I made the decision to really live life and as such I travelled with friends/family to over 60 countries (& still going strong) and I visited; - Most of the major cities across Europe, - The majestic charm of Brazil, - Wonderous Goa, - The crazy wonder of Argentina, - The teasing Pyramids of Giza, - Going crackers in Caracas, - Great memories in USA/Canada and the Caribbean, - Along with many other fabulous destinations with my favourite slice of paradise on Earth being the beautiful, magical and gorgeous Maldives a destination that I have visited multiple times and will keep going back to until the very last drop...it is just flaming gorgeous & I am in love... My Sister and I also appeared on multiple Gameshows on TV including, 5 mins to a Fortune, Exit List, Blockbusters (where I won the 1st ever Gold run), I even tried my luck on Total Wipeout in Argentina. We laughed, cried, built memories and lived our lives with no regrets and as always, I am determined to never let anything grind me down, never... NEVER GIVE UP despite the cards that life has dealt you |
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5 SERIOUS KNEE OPERATIONS AND SQUASH SUCCESS
I had 5 knee Operations over the years and progressively DRs said my knee was the worst bone on bone they had seen as I was stage 4 and my tibia had a huge crater in it where the bone had been ground down by my femur and with not a meniscus or articular cartilage anywhere to be seen with Drs insisting that I immediately quit ALL sport. Despite these setbacks I continued with my goals and over the decades won over 70+ trophies as a semi-Pro squash player playing in 2 tournaments every month against elite-level opponents in gruelling 64 draw competitions despite wearing a heavy-duty knee brace and being in pain with some of my most memorable wins being the Slough, Leeds, Uxbridge and London tournaments. Crucially, I still lived my best moments by competing and never missing out on those magical moments. In recent times however as the pain exacerbated and there was enough safety data, I underwent a final knee operation called a HTO (same as David Goggins) where my knee was fixed once and for all. As a result, I am now pain free and I will be aiming to compete on the Masters Squash circuit with the goal being to represent England soon just like my son and that would be a really heart-warming feeling and personal achievement. NEVER GIVE UP and live for the great moments in life as the time never comes back |
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KEEP STUDYING AND IMPROVING YOURSELF
Many people said that with the Police job, family, kids and being in my 40’s it would be impossible to study and achieve a MSc degree due to the complexities of such a tough qualification but I never listened and proudly achieved it anyway. I also gave the 11+ a go and having never taken an 11+ exam or even studied the curriculum I helped all 3 of my children gain their spots in Grammar school by teaching them myself despite being told that I was doomed to fail as I was not a teacher and had no clue about the 11+ but I was focussed and it paid off. NEVER GIVE UP on improving yourself and doing things you are uncomfortable with |
I will end by saying that I am a straight talking, no-nonsense motivational speaker and these traits have been honed from my lifetime of experiences. I always speak from the heart and deliver all of my messages directly and I am extremely passionate to help YOU to unleash the tools, systems and processes that have helped me for years to find success, to survive, to win, to endure and to overcome everything that life has thrown at me and then some more…
Stay blessed, healthy and happy and I hope you share this journey with me!
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Stay blessed, healthy and happy and I hope you share this journey with me!
SUBSCRIBE to my YOUTUBE channels or BOOK me for a 121 session...